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The Year of the Spiral Perm

I don’t remember the exact year I first visited Rome, so instead I’ll call it The Year of The Big Hair.

I was in my mid-twenties, with The Most Awesome Spiral Perm Ever! Seriously, it took my stylist FOUR, count ’em, F O U R (!) FOUR hours to get all those pesky rollers in my hair.  Looking back, with my short stature, I must have looked like I was ready to topple over, what with all the hair coiling on itself like a Medusa ‘do gone bad.

It was August in Rome. It was hot in Rome. It was humid in Rome.

But I digress.

Rome, like my hair, loomed larger than life.  Words can describe it, photos can show proof of it, but you have to see it writ large across your retinas to fully grasp how grand it is.  I am, of course, talking about the city.

I was on a twenty-four hour layover (my days as a flight attendant) so it was off to the races! The Colosseum! The Trevi Fountain! The Forum! The Pantheon!  Run run run, with my hair streaming behind me like a magical super hero cape. (This was, of course, before Edna Mode’s sage advice of NO CAPES!)

I might have had gelato more than once. I might have had gelato more than thrice. Did I mention it was hot? At some point, the itinerary morphed into a gelato tour punctuated with a few Roman ruins.

Things that stuck in my mind, and maybe in my hair as well:

1.) The grandeur of the Colosseum. So massive, so haunted with history. Lives spent there like cheap pennies to be tossed at a beggar. The roar of chariots, wild animals, the chanting crowds, the cries of gladiators; all  are subdue echos now in the stone corridors.

2.) The Forum. Where the original Toga Party was held. Where history was shaped and legends made. Where emperors and senators once walked, cats now recline in indolence and lassitude.

3.) The Trevi Fountain. I did not expect it to be so fancy. I mean, I didn’t think it was going to be like a water fountain in the halls of my elementary school, but I didn’t think it would be so….curlicue and grandiose….like my hair. Whoa.

After a day of capering through the streets and gawping at the antipasti buffet at dinner, I fell asleep that night to marble columns decorated with stray kitty cats dancing in my head.

The next day, up up up went the hair, restrained and sprayed into submission. Back in uniform, back to the plane, back to the States.

Roman traffic would have to be distracted by something other than The Biggest Hair Ever. The ghosts of the Eternal City returned to silently  haunting their ruins. The uneven cobblestones prepared for another day of tripping up unsuspecting tourists.

But as if caught by a tangled fishing net, Roman memories entwined in my mind and hair. Shellacked into place. Pinned and twisted into strands of my coif.

I no longer have the Big Hair, but the memories? They’re eternal.

 

 

I’ve Met You Before

I see you. I recognize you. I know who you are.

You’ve taken many guises; your masque is never the same. But once you peel away that faux smile, your true character is revealed.

I’ve dated you, I’ve been your lover, your friend.  I’ve studied with you.  I’ve been your employee, your boss, your confidant and your enemy.

I’ve seen you in a million places, around the world. I am always surprised when I run into you, but why, I don’t know.

You’re a Bully.

Time was when you had to be physically there to harass me. On the playground, at school, during a dinner date,  at the workplace…… it didn’t really matter where. The key was, you had to, in some ways, be brave enough to actually intimidate me in person, put a face to your shenanigans. You had to own it. I guess looking back, you had some sort of courage, however insipid it was.

Now, you can curl up comfortably at home and fire away from the safety of your keyboard.  You don’t have to be there to see my reaction when I read your attack. You don’t have to be honorable enough to tell me to my face why you’re being petulant, childish, pejorative or just plain mad. You certainly don’t have to give me the chance to defend myself, apologize, talk it out or try to make it better.

And thanks to the wonder of technology, your audience is now worldwide, not limited to the gang of kids clustered around us in the playground. With the click of a button, you can wound me, my family, my friends, my business, and most importantly, my soul.  You don’t even have to watch me bleed out or cry. You certainly won’t be there to face any repercussions or help me glue myself back together again.

You’ve won.

Almost.

The one thing you forget is that your offensive tells me more about you than it tells the world about me. You reveal your true self, and it’s not pretty. You know deep down you’re being an arse. You are deliberately being unkind, and the stink of it permeates your entire argument.  Nothing can mask that.

How does your victory feel now? Because I can hear  your self-doubt echoing through the hollowness of it.

Keep on doing what you’re doing.  I’ll be here, head down, working hard, evolving into a better person. You? Your choice. I have better things to do. Peace out.

 

 

 

 

 

 

V’s Question

“When do you become an adult?”, she asked me.

She’s eighteen years old and about to head to college. True, she’s more mature than most her age, has her head on straight. And yet, that anxious voice asks me, how will she know she’s crossed the threshold into adulthood.

Our world says eighteen is the magic number, when you blow out that many candles on your birthday cake, you magically gain access to the World of Grown Ups.

At eighteen, you can go off to war for your nation, you can vote for the governance of your choice, you are no longer “jail bait”, you can make your own decisions (except to drink alcohol).

But it’s not that simple; the cut between childhood and adult status is not a clean neat cut made by a sharp saber.

It’s more of a ragged laceration, the result of sawing back and forth with the serrated knife of indecision. It’s running three steps towards being your own independent soul, then taking one step back to grab your childhood teddy bear for comfort because the world can be scary.

So what is it?  What is the marker that says, “You’ve arrived!”

It’s when you realize your power. Not the super hero Wonder Woman kind (sadly, because who couldn’t use a magic lasso and those bullet-proof cuffs every now and then). No, it’s a more subtle kind, one that takes greater discipline and courage to acknowledge and master.

It’s knowing you have capacity to hurt, to heal and to love. You can break a heart without  knowing it. You can build a wall and not see it there. You can wound someone so deeply, it sends them into a tailspin that can alter the path of their life.

You have the faculty to take a sledgehammer to that wall, apply a salve to the deep cuts you left, hold someone steady so they can find their way again. You have that ability.

It’s realizing you are not as insignificant as you think, that your actions are like ripples in a pond, wide and far-reaching. The words you say, the things you do, or NOT, they count. You may never know the impact you have on someone else, but the little pebble you toss away may well be the keystone on which another person will build their house.

The flip side is the humbling epiphany that you are NOTHING. The world owes you nothing, you are a cog in the wheel of the writhing mass of humanity. There is always someone else who will be smarter, prettier, better than you. You cannot rely on your uniqueness, because in a world of billions, how can you be The Only One? You cannot rest on your laurels because the rest of the world is moving forward, leaving you behind.

It’s quite the conundrum, a see-saw of importance and insignificance. It’s so confusing and daunting. How do we not all end up curled up in the fetal position, rocking ourselves to sleep?

As you grow taller in emotional maturity, you are able to see a wider radius of the map of your life, watch the signs, and choose the direction in which you would like to go. Your life experiences provide the scaffolding to shore you up when you just can’t find your way. The scars on your heart serve as a compass to guide you to kinder roads. You will find your way.

It’s terrifying.  It’s also exhilarating, intoxicating and miraculous. You can’t avoid this journey, so make it count., V.  Make it amazing.

 

 

 

 

Berlin

Berlin January 1990: Grey monoliths fill my mind. Soviet bloc apartment buildings shuddering under the strain of a leaden winter sky. Pale colorless people shuffling onto trains and subways, pushing through crowds, moving in uncharted circles in their new world.

The euphoria of November 9, 1989 has faded away. The instantaneous and miraculous transformation from bleak palette to vibrant hues has not taken place. The reality of a long slow slog towards unification is seeping in, like an overused tea bag; at times bitter and weak.

I descend on the city in my youthful naivete. The words “Checkpoint Charlie” and “shoot to kill” echo vaguely in my mind, but I have yet to make the connection between phrases my mother dramatically uttered and the grey conglomeration of buildings I am now seeing.  Slowly, slowly, my sheltered Western eyes open and I see another world laboring to cast off the concrete shackles of this former Eastern Bloc.

We ride a tram from Potsdam back to comforting West Berlin, where neon lights and the frenetic pace to grab life and devour it whole are what we know, what we consider normal.

Hunger stirs us. I reach into my purse and pull out three precious oranges, oranges I had to buy at the market in Braunschweig, because they were Oranges From Morocco.  As I pierce the skin with my nail, the sweet and tangy aroma of oranges makes an almost visible trail through the train. Babushka-clad old women, men wearing sensible hats stir as the bright orange trail rushes by them. But they don’t look up, they don’t look at us, the spoiled Westerners defying the silent and morose atmosphere.

Is it habit? Is it ingrained in them to not stare, to pretend they see nothing?

We share the oranges among ourselves, and then it hits me.

Oranges From Morocco here are like unicorns.

I feel guilty and ashamed for having this wealth of fruit in my bag, sorry that I don’t have an orange for every person on that train, relieved when we step off the train and step back into the throbbing metropolis of West Berlin.

Berlin January 2004: I step off the train at Zoo Station. I choose Zoo Station because of U2. I look around me, and I don’t know where I am. I look to the east, to where colorless cement once met the sky on a cold day fourteen years earlier. I don’t recognize anything.

I see a homogeneous city of riotous color and lights. The Pied Piper of Consumerism has played his seductive tune, to great success.  The Wall that once tore the heart of this city into two pieces is now commemorated by a thin brass line.

No more babushkas. No more somber train cars. No more rows of sightless windows peering from cement rectangles over the scuttling city below.

I stop for a moment. I wonder if Oranges from Morocco are still unicorns here, or are they commonplace, like tabby cats in alleys. Does anyone stop at the sight of them anymore?

Like a comet tail, that narrow swath of orange perfume has widen, enveloped the city, crossed and blurred the borders between East and West. The unusual has become part of the scenery, shaded in to blend with the everyday.

In my mind, I see the jubilant orange colors, made all the more vibrant for the grey that once contrasted it. And I am glad I was there for it.

Thank you, Berlin.

 

The Dirtiest Four-Letter Word

 

*Lisa’s note: I wrote this in response to many a friends’ frustration with being told to “just……” in response to predicaments in which they have found themselves. It’s not meant as chastisement, but rather a check to see how we are responding, and maybe give us a more effective way to help. I’m really trying to be a better person, and this is part of my path.

 

 

Just” is the dirtiest four-letter word I know. And I know a few of them.

Well-meaning people (and I count myself in that group) have told others, “Just blah blah blah….” in an effort to be kind, caring, and help provide a solution.

Here are my issues with using this word:

A.) It implies that the person you are “advising” is too stupid, ignorant or lazy to have come up with such a simple solution as the one you are “just” proposing.

Yes, folks have EUREKA! moments, and sometimes they need a nudge in the right direction to come to that point of clarity. But truth be told, we’ve probably run over that hamster wheel of thought many times already. We’ve factored in as many variables as possible.Telling us to “just” whatever is not really helping.

B.) It says that the problem at hand is not a big one, not a hard one to solve, and ergo, really not important.

It must be true, because the solution is so facile, you “just” have to whatever whatever whatever……

You are making a mountain out of a molehill, because the answer is right there.

Note: when you’re a mole, a molehill IS a mountain.

C.) It tries to diminish the impact of something you may be doing.

“I was just joking.”

But words hurt. And as the old adage goes, in every joke, there is a grain of truth. Your joke may fall on deaf ears.

“I was just having fun. I was just trying to help. I was just being cautious.”

The truth is often the opposite. The fun or help or caution can be more harmful, but using “just” to describe what you did is an attempt to take way the sting of your action or inaction.  That little “just” could be the straw that breaks someone’s spirit.

D.) It’s shrugging off someone else’s dilemma.

What may seem so self-explanatory and plain in your view does not factor in what someone else is going through. Everyone has different extenuating circumstances. To apply a One Size Fits All mentality negates another person’s reality. You cannot take what would work for you and expect someone else to successfully translate that into his/her life. And you would not want someone else to do that to you.

I get it. This advice-giving comes from a place of wanting to help. Or a place of wanting to mollify oneself because you don’t know how to help. It’s common, and we don’t do this to be hurtful.

Everyone is going through something, and sometimes, we want or HAVE to tune out. So we offer the “just blah blah blah” wisdom.

I personally would prefer to hear the following:

“I understand.”

“I’m sorry this is happening.”

“You are going to be okay. I am here to help you.”

“I can do (fill in the blank) for you. Would that be helpful?”

“I’m here, let’s talk.”

Or anything like that.

It’s not judgmental. It isn’t reductive. It isn’t demeaning or dismissive.

It’s supportive. It’s loving.  It’s being kind.

And we need so much more kindness in this world.

I love my four-letter words. But I am banishing this particular one from my lexicon.

 

 

Online Dating in the Ice Age

Getting an ice machine for Gnocchi Bar was very much like online dating.

While I cobbled together all the other equipment for the restaurant from the used equipment listings, the ice machine was the one piece of equipment I was ready to splurge on.

I perused each ice machine’s profile, looked at pictures, and tried to envision what the actual machine would look like. More importantly, would it be the right fit for my world.

Height, weight, dimensions, output, ratings….. the similarities to online dating are striking.

And just like dating in the cyber world, I shared ice machine profiles with trusted friends.

“What do you think? Is it worth the money? Is this what I need? Will it be adequate or outstanding?”

“IS THIS THE ONE????”

With a wee tremor in my hand, I finally clicked the “buy” button, and watched the dollars magically disappear from my bank account.

Three days later, the Day of Destiny, Mr. Right The Ice Machine arrived.

It was smaller than I anticipated.

It was noisier than I expected.

It has more moods than I think an ice machine should have.

And it goes “thunk” when it drops a load of ice.

Maybe, just maybe that profile photo was, ahem, filtered.

In warmer weather, we cheer it on, offer it encouragement, coax it to completion. “Come on, baby, you can do it!”

In the winter, it overproduces ice, because that’s EXACTLY when you need more ice.

Swipe right, swipe left. But please close the bin when you’re done

It’s not the perfect machine, but it’s MY sweetie now.

 

 

 

 

 

Crushing

He crunches cans like cereal every morning. While the rest of the neighborhood sleepily struggles to fill coffee mugs and shakes  kibbles into bowls, he has littered the sidewalk with corpses of aluminum cans.

Sometimes he is on the left side of the street; other days he is on the right. Different street side, same measured strike of his foot. Can down, foot up, aim steady, strike. Can after can transformed from hollow cylinder into flat disc.

He appears to be in his sixties, but age is just a number. His face says more about his life than a numerical symbol ever could. He has stories, this I know. If I was ever brave enough to get closer, I could read them in the cursive written on his face.

His clothing speaks of pride in his appearance. He may be just crushing cans, but no sweat pants and ratty tee shirt for him. He wears a blazer and a collared shirt.  His boots are sturdy and no nonsense. No need for a mallet or fancy can crusher. His boots will do just fine.

The flattened cans spread out over the sidewalk, creeping towards the street. Bulging bags of cans patiently wait their turn. He is their gravity, keeps them from scattering across the street and into traffic. They orbit around him, smattered to the ground.

I drive by him every morning. Every morning I resolve to ask him his story. Every morning I chicken out.

I want to ask him where he gets the cans. Does he scavenge for them in dumpsters during the wee hours of the morning? Does he haunt parking lots? Does someone collect them for him? Where does he take them once they are compressed? Is this his main income, or does he fancy himself a good Samaritan saving Mother Earth? What do these cans mean to him? Why does he do this?

But I don’t stop. I drive on, watching him, but not looking, because it’s rude to stare.

In my mind, the cans are hopes and dreams. He is the janitor of failure; he takes those empty shells, and ruins them so that they will not tempt again. He tidies up after us.

Dream down, foot up, aim steady, strike.

But see, the dreams don’t die. They get turned over, recycled, reformed into shiny new cans, to be filled with effervescence, refreshment, life.  They are given sparkling new labels, sexy and alluring. They entice and beguile all over again.

They are bought, emptied and tossed. New label, old dream, same result.

Dream down, foot up, aim steady, strike.

And I drive by, once again without stopping.

 

 

Catharsis with Coffee

The tensile strength of a woman’s heart is measured in decibels of silent tears.

Quiet tears, hidden tears.  Tears of joy, elation, shock, sorrow, heartbreak, anger, failure and triumph.

They are salty, seasoned generously with our emotions. Their voluptuous shape belies the arid reservoir of strength from where they flow. Their bitterness is bas relief to the sweet release they bring.

We forget we can cry, that we even know how. We deny these tears exist. We push down, shoulder on, steel our resolve. We feel our heartstrings pulled, like thin wires heated over and over again, stretched into gossamer strands that carry the weight of our world.

When we do cry, we cry furtively, wordlessly, secretly in locked cars, public bathroom stalls, under the drumbeat of the shower. We choose places where our anonymity can be preserved, so no one, NO ONE, will see us broken and torn.

Tears. Tear. Torn.

The salinity of our tears corrodes the wires of our heart. The rust gathers, devouring us until the wires unravel into a maelstrom of emotions.

They do stop. Eventually.

They have to.

Life clamors for our attention, our presence.

We mop up the flood, and realize our heartstrings are whole, intact. They are more flexible, capable of carrying greater payloads, more gross tonnage.

We gather the rust and ocher of these salty tears and mix them like tempera paint into bright colors, colors that give our lives punctuation, emphasis, contrast and depth. They adorn the manuscripts of our lives like the illustrations in ancient scrolls.

We don’t cry publicly, but you see our tears in our hard-won wisdom and grace, in our beautiful strength. You hear their echo in our stories. You understand their worth when we break your fall with our compassion. Their silent decibels shout out through every strong woman.

Listen. Listen closely.

Stepping Out of the Shadow

The eucalyptus tree sentinel still stands there on California Highway 29.  It is the most northerly tree in a stand of siblings, notable for a big rounded scar that covers an old wound where a branch was removed.

I don’t know when it was planted, or how old it is.  I just know that whenever I am lucky enough to find myself back in the valley, I look for it.  Seeing it reassures me that some things are immutable, or at least, longer lasting than some of our lifetimes.

I was recently back there, in that magical valley, where so much emotion, tribulation, victory, elation and defeat were compressed into three short years.  It doesn’t matter from which direction I approach the valley, which road I take in, my hands start to shake, my eyes well with tears and I feel my heart ache and jump with exultation at the same time.  Every direction heads home.

When I left that valley in 2000, it took me a long time to come to grips with the rest of my life.  That may sound strange but when you work with someone who cast such a big shadow in your life, someone who gets into your mind and reworks the way you think, someone who pushes you to discover just how far you can fly, life without that person seems strangely bereft.

It took me over a decade to realize that I was good enough on my own, that I had merit, and that my path was not a mistake, that I hadn’t FAILED.  You see, I felt like I failed when I left that restaurant, that I had caved in and just couldn’t measure up.

When I first left that valley, I took a job in a coastal town.  My greatest responsibility was to come up with a daily pasta and fish special, and that was as far as I wanted to think. I didn’t have to worry about making sure labels were straight on containers in the walk-in refrigerator, or scour the parking lot for errant cigarette butts or sit in terror of knowing something was out of place but not seeing it until it was pointed out to me by The Daily Big Shadow.  I wasn’t getting up at two in the morning with stomach cramps and nausea because I was so worked up about a day that hadn’t even dawned yet.  It was a blissful relief to just make sandwiches for tourists, to put up simple fare, to have no expectations put upon me, to not worry about finding my own errors before someone else did.  It was a time to decompress, to discover what cooking meant for me in the absence of The Daily Big Shadow.

I struggled, boy did I struggle.  I hated telling people where I had worked because all of sudden, their expectations of what I should cook became ridiculous.  They wanted multi-course menus with all the nuances of that valley restaurant.  But I felt I couldn’t do it.  I was just one part of a complex dance, and being a “young “cook, I didn’t feel I had it in my repertoire to achieve such heights.

I also didn’t want my identity to be so tied up in that valley restaurant that all I would do with my future was reproduce a poor imitation of the real thing.  I wanted to have my own voice, my own identity.  Trouble was, I didn’t even know if I could sing.  I wanted to be recognized for my own talents and I didn’t know if I could even carry an aria, much less sing background vocals.

The other part that I hated about people knowing for whom I had worked was their opinions.  Everyone had to make some sort of judgment about The Daily Big Shadow, either dissing him or revering him as a culinary god.  It was weird, like people had to make TDBS accessible in their minds by judging him.  By attaching their assessments to his persona, they were able to grasp him, make him real, and get a handle on the phenomenon that TDBS had become.

Their expectations would translate to me, and I lived in such fear that I could not nor would not ever measure up.  Of course I could not.  No one can.  And we shouldn’t.  We should measure ourselves against ourselves.  Common sense, but I wasn’t listening.  I began to doubt my ability to cook at all.

I expressed those doubts by being demanding, by shouting, by pushing and by sheer arrogance.  I walked around with a huge chip on my shoulder, justifying it by telling myself it made me taller.  In reality, it was weighing me down.  I carried that chip, which grew to a stump, which became a log, which evolved into a deep-rooted tree.  People along the way tried to help me chop that tree down, for it was blocking the sunshine out of my life.  But I was too comfortable hiding in its shadow, too afraid to be blinded by the pure sun to raise that ax myself.

It took a major heartbreak and several years of solitude to find the ax handle was in my grasp all along.  I flung myself into foreign countries, hoping to escape in the clamor of new cities ,wanting the unfamiliar din to drown out the familiar prickly whisper telling me that my efforts were futile, that I needed to start looking within.

There’s nothing like loneliness to make one look inward, and those four years abroad were some of the loneliest ones in my adult days.  I had to come to the end of myself to find the start of myself.

Since that time, I’ve learned to be comfortable in my own skin, to trust myself and to understand that the most important lesson I learned in that sunny California valley was more about self-confidence and respect than about cooking.

I am in a much happier place now.  I realize that the disapproval I felt was not TDBS’s but mine.  I know now that we each make our own road.  Some roads are elegant boulevards, some of dusty country highways and some are rough trails in a forest. Some are just brief impressions in sand, gone by the morning.  And that’s just the way it should be.  That deep-rooted tree has turned into a solid plank of principles and philosophies that guide me.  I stand taller because there is not a chip to weigh me down.

I am humbled that I had the chance to work in that magical valley, that I was given that chance to be a part of something so special.  I also accept now that I earned my right to be there, that I was not a charity case and that my work counted for something.  To admit that to myself was huge milestone for me.  TDBS put much into my success, but only because I did.

I am glad the eucalyptus tree still stands guard as an anchor for the many souls that flit in and out of that valley.  It is a visible reminder of the solid roots we developed so we could fly away and bloom.  I hope it will be there to greet me, and you, for many years to come.

Look for it the next time you are rolling down California Highway 29, and shout out a hello to it for me.  And then whisper a thank you.

 

 

 

 

Go Fly a Kite

When I was a kid, my sister and I would try to make and fly kites.  We carefully glued together chopsticks to form the crossbeams and attached paper to form the body.  We tied our creations to our bikes and pedaled mightily with the wind, only to have our joys deflated by the bumpity bump bump of the kite sagging and bouncing along the road behind us.

Undeterred, we decided that the paper was too heavy, so being the intrepid explorers that we were, we used newspaper instead.  Proudly sporting the Sunday comic section, our kites were ready to re-launch.  We primed our bikes, checked our knots and off we went, flying with the wind.

We may have flown, but our kites decided otherwise.  They once again sadly plummeted to earth and trailed behind us like forgotten streamers of a long-gone Fourth of July parade.

Surely, SURELY our kites must be too heavy.  There could be no other explanation.  With that, we fashioned more kites, this time using tissue paper as the wings.  Purple, blue, pink and green, our kites were little jewels just waiting to take their place against the summer blue sky.

Hope springs eternal; well, at least for us it did.  Undaunted, we set ourselves up at the launch pad, a gentle rise of the driveway.  After a final check by Mission Control, we revved up our engines and thrust ourselves down the runway.

And our kites dragged forlornly behind us.

Dejected and feeling much like Charlie Brown in his kite-flying escapades, we put our kites away and turned to face the rest of the business of growing up.  We did not give up hope completely; over the years we tried again and again until we outgrew our bikes and our childhood dreams.

It wasn’t until much later that it finally dawned on me that to fly a kite, you had to run against the wind.

Wow.  What a revolutionary idea for me.

To launch your plane, your kite, your dream, you have to fly into the wind.  That was such a novel concept to someone who had always been taught to not make waves, to fit in, to blend in and be one of the crowd.

Play it safe, play it conservative, don’t take chances.  This was the mantra of my childhood.  And I’ve been rebelling against it ever since.

Right now, I’m in the midst of getting another dream of mine to fly.  There are some strong headwinds that want to push me down.  They are coming from all directions.  Some winds howl that I’m not good enough, that I don’t know enough.  Other winds whisper in my ear that I will fail and I should just play it safe.  Some gusts echo in my head the negative things I’ve heard.  Little tornados lift my hopes, only to dash me down again.  They eddy and flow around me, unseen but clamoring in my head.

But there are gentler currents as well.  They are the ones that flutter around me, telling me I cannot fail, that failure is just another step towards knowledge.  They rustle my confidence and breathe fresh air into stagnating hopes.  They rally to my defense, tell me not to give up.  They cool my raging anger at the impossibility of it all, and provide just enough of a breeze to kindle the fire. They form an invisible string that attaches to my kite and pulls it up, making it airborne.

And so I will run into the wind, because it seems that is all I know what to do. I stand on my launch pad, checking the gauges, ready to run into the wind, colorful kite in hand.  Let’s fly!